PUBLISHED: June 14, 2019 • 3 minute read
Who we surround ourselves with will affect our behavior and future. This is why it is essential that we hang out with people that will point us toward God rather than away from Him. Let us look into what the Bible says about cultivating healthy friendships.
Friends Determine Future
Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. (Proverbs 13:20)
Bad company corrupts good character. (1 Corinthians 15:33)
The popular quote, “show me your friends and I’ll show you your future” is very true and even aligns with Scripture. The character of those we surround ourselves with will eventually rub off on us for better or worse. It is best to prayerfully consider whether or not your friends are pointing you towards God, and make adjustments if needed.
Sharpen One Another
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17)
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. (Hebrews 10:24-25)
It is crucial to have godly friends that “sharpen” us through accountability and encouragement. We need people that will speak the truth in love and remind us of who we are in Christ so that we will be effective warriors for the kingdom of God. Similarly, we must pursue fellowship with other believers so that we may spur on one another toward love and good deeds which glorify Jesus.
Jesus’ Model of Friendship
Jesus set an example of how we are to structure our social life. He had three close friends, and out of these, one intimate friend. Quality outweighs quantity. Jesus had many fans, but few devoted followers. It is best to have a few close friends rather than hundreds of “friends” who are, in reality, mere acquaintances. It is also important to point out that Jesus did fellowship with ungodly people, but He did not compromise the purity of His character to fit in with the crowd. He was able to positively influence all people because He remained the same in every environment. However, it is essential to remember that His few close friends did have true character.
In closing, I would like to share a passage of Scripture that illustrates the type of friends that will sharpen us and spur us on in our relationship with God.
Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither— whatever they do prospers. (Psalm 1:1-3)